Episode 63 – Beating Winter Blues

In this episode, Liz and Heather discuss beating winter blues, especially in Houston where it isn’t generally cold much in the winter time.

Beating Winter Blues

Beating Winter Blues

Even though we don’t really get snowed in or have super cold days here, we can still get the winter blues. Especially on overcast, cold, and clammy (humid) days. Also, the time change in the winter really messes with your head and biorhythms. It makes you feel tired and grumpy. It does lead to a lot of binge watching and binge eating.

How to Beat the Blahs

  • Embrace it, if you can – Pretend you are choosing to spend the cold day in bed so that you can really enjoy the day.
  • Keep Warm – There are certain things that we want to do in winter, like hot chocolate, soups and stews, giant blankets. You may have to flip on the AC for this activity if you live in Houston.
  • Find the light – Get outside and find the sun, wherever it may be. Watch out for Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), which comes from a lack of Vitamin D. This can boost your mood and help you keep a little more active.
  • Pokemon Go will overheat your phone and keep your hands warm.
  • Eating healthy – When most of us binge watch and binge eat, you aren’t doing it with healthy foods. Try to get the foods in season and go to town.
  • Lighting (in doors) – Open the blinds and let in some light.
  • Make some kind of plans – You have the chance to catch up on things you have been meaning to do. Forget your resolutions and goals and make a PLAN and work the plan. Try not to isolate yourself. Go out and see people when you can.
  • Know your limitations – Don’t over-commit when you know it won’t be good for you. Do what you can do, plan for the things that take more time than you have. Get a day planner and keep track of what you need to do and make adjustments as you see things crowding up.
  • Find a hobby – Figure out what you like to do and make some time to do it. Puzzles, coloring, etc.
  • One Day at a Time – Just get through the day. Live in the moment. Life is much more manageable if you stay present. Mindfulness.
  • Talk it Through – Lean on your support system. Talk to someone who will listen and not judge or try to solve your problems. Make these relationships a two-way street. Don’t just dump all of your crap on someone and never allow them to do the same. If you can’t find a person to trust – get a journal. NEVER go back and read those journals.

[Beating the Winter Blues]

WTF?

What the hell is dabbing?

Who gave you the right to change The Running Man [dance]??

 

“THE SUN IS FOR VENGEANCE, BETTY!”

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Time Travel

Episode 62 – Time Travel

In this episode, Heather and Liz talk time travel in entertainment (but not real science, so don’t tell us we don’t know science – because we already know that).

Time Travel

Time Travel

We are discussing time travel in TV and movies. Since we don’t have Dr. Neil Degrass Tyson on the show (but we would LOVE to), we won’t be talking the actual physics/science behind the potential for time travel, or even things like wormholes. We are sticking to what we can Google and what we can see in entertainment.

Time Travel Theories
  1. Fixed timeline – Single fixed history which is unchangeable. Whatever you go back and try to change will be what created it in the first place. Examples: 12 Monkeys and Donnie Darko.
  2. Dynamic timeline – Very small change in the past has a huge impact on the future (Butterfly effect or chaos theory). Example: Back to the Future. Paradox: Grandfather paradox – If you go back in time and kill your grandfather and thus you should never be born, but the fact that YOU went back in time means that you existed and the grandpa can’t be killed.
  3. Multi-verse – Every change you make creates a new timeline. Example: Doctor Who, The Flash
  4. Trapped in time – Time is paused and they will rejoin the timeline. Example: Jumanji, Austin Powers: The Spy Who Shagged Me; Planet of the Apes (1968).

Bootstrap Paradox: occurs when an object or piece of information sent back in time becomes trapped within an infinite cause-effect loop in which the item no longer has a discernible point of origin, and is said to be “uncaused” or “self-created”.

Wormhole – Often used as a method for time travel

Time Travel – in TV

  • Doctor Who
  • Quantum Leap
  • Legends of Tomorrow
  • Agents of Shield (ish)
  • Continum

Time Travel – in Movies

  • Back to the Future
  • Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure
  • Groundhog Day*
  • Interstellar
  • Terminator
  • Time Bandits
  • Star Trek IV: The Voyage Home
  • Butterfly Effect
  • Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban
  • X-Men Days of Future Past
  • Flight of the Navigator
  • 13 Going on 30

Other Segments – Bitch of the Week, Things We Don’t Get, and Out-of-Context Internet Comments

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Rogue One

Episode 61 – Rogue One

In this episode, Liz and Heather talk all about Rogue One and the future of the Star Wars saga. There are spoilers in this episode, so make sure you have seen the movie or just take our word for it!

Rogue One

Rogue One

We start out talking about Star Wars canon and the previously-known extended universe (now Legends). Some of the more popular things from the old books are coming back into the true canon, like Admiral Thrawn (first introduced by Timothy Zahn in the Trawn trilogy), who is now appearing in Star Wars: Rebels this season. We also see Saw Guerrera, who originally came around in Clone Wars, and is now in Rogue One, and also in Rebels.

Other characters that show up in Rogue One: Chopper (droid, Rebels), General Syndulla (Hera, Rebels), Dr. Evanza and Ponda Baba (bad dudes from the Cantina scene in Episode IV)

Rogue One passed the Bechtel Test! (Note: There is a new Jyn Erso backstory book coming out soon). As far as women go, we see Jyn and Mon Mothma talking, and not about a man! We would like more backstory on Jyn to tell us why we should care about her, because she is kind of a bitch throughout the whole story (more so in the Rogue One book than the movie).

Villains – Star Wars is amazing at making terrible villains who actually make you uncomfortable. Orsen Krennick, Darth Vader being a badass (and also cracking jokes while force choking someone), Tarkin, etc.

CGI issues – Peter Cushing passed in 1994 and was recreated via CGI over another actor. Tarkin was an essential part of the story, so it was necessary to have him in the story. His importance is much stronger in the book than what they did in the movie, which was respectful. We LOVED the CGI Princess Leia at the end of the movie. It is harder to watch after her passing in late December.

Discussion around other characters. We will be doing a Robot episode in the upcoming months, so we talk only about K-2SO in this episode.

Bitch of the Week

Heather – Birds

Liz – Oversharing of someone else’s photos on Facebook

Book Club – Coming Soon

Our next selection is The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams. Probably just the first books.

We also bring back the Bitch of the Week and Out-of-Context Internet Comments segments, and added a new one: Things We Just Don’t Get.

5-Star Reviews!

If you love our podcast, please go leave us a 5-star review and comment on iTunes and we will give you a shout-out on the show!

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Not so great expectations

Episode 60: Not So Great Expectations

Happy New Year! 2016 was a total bitch, and not in a good way like we are. In this episode, we talk about the not so great expectations of being a girl, and also provide a memorial on the late Carrie Fisher.

Not so great expectations

In Memory of Carrie Fisher…

We recorded the actual episode before Christmas, so when we woke up to the news that Carrie Fisher, our beloved Princess Leia, had died a few days after a heart attack. It was really devastating. Liz wrote about it on her blog, so you can read that here, but this was our recognition of an amazing woman who was an actor, an advocate for the mentally ill, and a fantastic writer. The day after, her mother, Debbie Reynolds, also died. So much tragedy in such a short time. Prayers for Gary Fisher. You can’t explain death to a dog. Let the love of Carrie carry us forward into DOING something, rather than waiting for things to happen. Let’s make the world a better place.

Moving on…

Not So Great Expectations

Heather loves day-drinking, especially at a festival. And the drunk texts from her during these events are also amazingly weird. But we want to talk about what it’s like being a girl when you aren’t really a “girly girl” and aren’t meeting up to expectations – ours or the world’s. First of all, just because we don’t always want to be girly doesn’t mean we want to be dudes. Get over your “penis envy” comments just because we don’t feel like doing our hair or makeup every day.

Story about Speedos. Just… don’t. Also, New Year’s Resolutions… stop. Stop hating yourself when you don’t meet these flighty goals. Make real goals and work on them. We talk about some goals that we have made over the years to better ourselves that aren’t just short-term goals.

The expectations we put on ourselves are often harder than the ones society imposes. We always assumed that we would be more put-together as adult women. And we judged, growing up, the moms/women who weren’t. We imagined that at some age, we would wake up and get our shit together. Still waiting…

Listen in to the rest.

Note: This is the “comfy” bra Operaman brought Liz when we went out and forgot to put one on…

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The Original Self Saving Princess

The following is a blog post that Liz has written over on her Self Saving Princess blog.

In May 1977, my parents decided to go to the movies to see what was playing. They didn’t have a babysitter, so they decided to bite the bullet and take their adorable nine-month old baby with them (that’s me). They arrived at a theater with no lines and checked what was playing. My dad, being a sci-fi nerd, decided on some new movie called Star Wars, which I am sure elicited an eye roll from my mother. I was there on opening day. Of course, I don’t remember any of it, because baby, but it became a huge part of my life.

Carrie Fisher as Princess Leia

Throughout my young life, I watched Star Wars over and over again. Everyone was obsessed with young Luke coming into his own as a budding Jedi, or Han Solo being a space-pirate badass. Not me. I was obsessed with Princess Leia. Growing up in the world of Disney princesses who had to be rescued by some bumbling prince (and yes, they did pull her out of the Death Star before blowing it up), it was amazing to see that THIS princess was beautiful and brave and could take charge and kick some serious ass. She went up against the bad guys as an equal, not a damsel. If you read everything Star Wars, like this giant nerd, you will also know that long before her introduction in cell 2187, Princess Leia Organa was also a member of the Galactic Senate, next to her adopted father, Bail Organa. She fought for justice from a young age because it was the right thing to do. She was a hero, even without a blaster or a lightsaber.

As life moved on, Leia got stronger and learned more about herself, the galaxy, and even the Force. She was someone little girls could look up to and emulate. As Star Wars luster faded slightly, Carrie Fisher carried on. She started writing and acting in other things and was amazing beyond that one role.

Her public struggles with bipolar disorder and substance abuse taught us many things. One of those things is to keep going. Shit gets bad for all of us, and not everyone copes well. But she stayed open about those struggles, and in doing so, opened the doors to a lot of people to discuss their own personal demons and to de-stigmatize mental illness. Her books and comedy shows are raw, open, and honest. There is a line from “Wishful Drinking” that says, “If my life wasn’t funny, it would just be true. And THAT is unacceptable.” I have used this as my personal mantra for years because if you only focus on the bad part, you can never move on. It inspired me to write about my own battles with health issues, depression and anxiety, and an incredibly destructive marriage that could have completely destroyed me. But time passes and you go to the funny side. Once you do that, it no longer has the power to hurt you.

A few days ago, it came across my Facebook feed that Carrie Fisher had suffered a major heart attack on an airplane. She was in critical condition with her daughter and her dog Gary by her side. I was strickened by this, but also laughed that Gary Fisher was allowed to be with his mommy. I also got a little pissed that my dogs were not allowed to stand vigil over me when I had my own heart attack back in 2011. Celebrity, I guess? I had hope, though. Hope that 2016 would stop its nasty ways and leave our favorite princess alone. I don’t know who appointed the Grim Reaper the boss of 2016, but that motherfucker has been cleaning some serious house this year. We have already lost so many! How could we possibly lose this precious light in a galaxy of darkness.

Yesterday, I spent some time creating. I have had a really rough holiday season and even missed all of Christmas Eve and most of Christmas Day in the hospital. I needed a day to myself to relax and do something that I enjoy. I picked up my Star Wars cross-stitch project that I started months ago, but haven’t had the time or energy to work on since. I was laughing at the figures as they appeared on my fabric, even making a fairly entertaining incest joke on my Instagram and our podcast Twitter. I went to bed feeling satisfied at the work I had accomplished (even after taking my last hoarded sleeping pill to FINALLY get to bed).

Then came the nudge. As my eyes slowly opened and I blinked the coma out of my brain, I saw the face of my husband. It was grim. “Carrie Fisher died,” he said to me. “I didn’t want you to see it on Facebook first.” At first, I just sat there, staring at him. Surely, it couldn’t be! Then, as the words registered, the tears started to flow. Honest truth – I have had family members die and I didn’t cry (full disclosure – I didn’t really like some of them). It usually takes me a few minutes to really process and get upset. But these tear fell like rain. My chest felt ripped apart and I felt a piece of my soul cry out. Then, I thought about Gary. Not about Billie, or Debbie… but for poor Gary Fisher. That dog will never understand why his mommy is gone. There is no explaining death to a dog. And I cried and cried.

I started this Self Saving Princess blog years ago with it being an outlet for me and others to realize that they COULD save themselves. They didn’t have to wait for someone else to decide their fate for them. It wasn’t Princess Peach or Rapunzel that gave me the idea. It was Leia. Princess Leia Organa. Senator Leia Organa. GENERAL LEIA FUCKING ORGANA. She started it all. She is now one with the Force.

For those of you thinking I cry over every celebrity passing, I will tell you know that THREE have hit me so hard that I was nearly inconsolable:

  • Sally Ride, whom I actually met as a child and had a conversation with. She taught me that girls could do ANYTHING and to never let anyone tell you otherwise. She also got a huge kick out of a six year old telling her that her uncle named his dog after her.
  • Robin Williams, who I never met, but loved in literally everything and every way. He was the brightest light in our universe and shit has gone downhill ever since.
  • Carrie Fisher, actress, princess, writer, comedian, and one real woman who changed the world.

Rest in Peace, Carrie. It’s been a bumpy ride and I am soothed to know that you will have some peace at last. I will never forget you. And someone please take care of Gary.

Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for those around you who transform into the Force. Mourn them do not. Miss them do not. Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed, that is.” – Yoda

About ElizabethBlessitt

Writer. Photographer. Organization Development guru. Rabid Scrapbooker. Partially terrified singer. Getting fit physically and emotionally. Will kick your ass at Jeopardy. Does Sudoku and Crosswords in pen.

12 Days of Giftmas – Day 12

Face it, this time of year is stressful. How about you take a load off of your gift recipient and offer to clean their house?  It might actually be easier to get a gift certificate for a maid service instead, but if you are short on cash… it’s a great option!

Tread carefully here. Make sure you advise this gift is to help after the holidays, not because you think they need it!

BTW, even if you do accidentally insult someone, they will still gladly accept this gift! So the fence is immediately mended (ment?….whatever).

 

12 Days of Giftmas – Day 11

OK, we are getting a little close to the holiday for gifts that require shipping. This year, offer ‘experience’ gifts that you can share. My favorite is an old school card that is good for Dinner and a Movie.

I know… its cheesy… but you don’t have to brave the store. So win-win!

12 Days of Giftmas – Day 10

Remember when Nerdy Bitch Heather tweeted to the whole world that she just ‘Shit Down her Computer’?  

Here is a collection of the times when autocorrect fails are wins for everyone else.
What a fun way to break the ice at a Christmas Party.

 

12 Days of Giftmas – Day 9

Snorlax knows how to party…by sleeping hard!

Get your Pokémon trainer a buddy for their travels. This little guy can double as a travel pillow for impromptu naps.

 

12 Days of Giftmas – Day 8

Don’t forget about your pups this year.

What better gift than to give your dog a bling grillz to class up play time?